spontanaeity in relationships..

I was talking about my kids and how they were growing up so soon. Someone then said ... do this and this more often and see how your relationship changes.

point number 1. I did not ask for advice
point number 2. I dont think I see a problem in the relationship and therefore the need for a change

all this got me thinking.. should i change behaviour in order to make things better. Is that an honest and open approach. Somehow it did not appeal to me and I felt truly that altering my behaviour towards another individual, not spontaneously but at the bidding of another seemed like an experiment. I didnt want to do it. In fact I have come more and more to dislike unsolicited advice. Why should every conversation turn out to a match of intellect, advice, of one individual wanting to change/influence another.

Is that what we all do any way.. I have to watch out for this one...